Japanese Relationship Phrases
From making friends to meeting someone special, these 15 Japanese relationship phrases cover the vocabulary of getting closer — each with romanization, a sounds-like hint and examples showing how it is really used.
Friends and colleagues
From classmates to coworkers to the friend you'd call at 3 a.m. — Japanese gives each relationship its own word.
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ともだち tomodachi Friend
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しんゆう shinyuu Best friend
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クラスメート kurasumeeto Classmate
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どうりょう douryou Coworker
Dating words
Who's who in a Japanese love story. These are the words you'll hear in every drama — and need for every catch-up with friends.
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かれし kareshi Boyfriend
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かのじょ kanojo Girlfriend
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パートナー paatonaa Partner
Gender-neutral — used for life partners and business partners alike.
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こんやくしゃ konyakusha Fiancé or fiancée
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かれしができた kareshi ga dekita I got a boyfriend
Two-faced pronouns
かれ means both "he" and "boyfriend", かのじょ both "she" and "girlfriend" — context decides. When you need to be unambiguous about romance, かれし only ever means boyfriend.
Single or taken
Relationship status, stated the Japanese way: as an ongoing state rather than a label.
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どくしん dokushin Single
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けっこんしている kekkon shite iru To be married
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こんやくしている konyaku shite iru To be engaged
Sweet nothings
Japanese saves its biggest words for the smallest moments. Here is the whole romantic register, from confession to longing.
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すきです suki desu I like you (a confession)
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あいしてる aishiteru I love you (deep and intense)
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いなくてさみしい inakute samishii I'm lonely without you
How confessions work
Romance in Japan traditionally starts with a kokuhaku — a formal confession — and the standard line is すきです, not あいしてる. あいしてる is so weighty that many couples go years without saying it aloud.
In real life: telling your best friend the news
かれしができた kareshi ga dekita
I got a boyfriend!
おめでとう omedetou
Congratulations!
かれしはやさしいひとです kareshi wa yasashii hito desu
He's such a kind person.
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Frequently asked questions
How do I talk about my boyfriend, girlfriend or partner in Japanese?
The list above includes the everyday words for friend, boyfriend, girlfriend and partner, plus the verbs around dating. Watch the notes — some words carry formality or age nuances you will want to get right.
How do I pronounce these Japanese phrases?
Every phrase comes with romanization — the phrase spelled out in Latin letters. Read it out loud slowly, then work up to the rhythm of the full phrase. Native speakers care far more about confidence and context than perfect pronunciation.
What is the best way to memorize these phrases?
Little and often beats cramming. Review a handful of phrases a day, say them out loud, and revisit them tomorrow. The Pretalk app turns lists like this one into bite-size lessons with spaced review, so the phrases actually stick.
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